The whole mess started on a random Tuesday night. Vivianne and I were curled up on the couch, talking about the future. Specifically, about kids. It was the kind of conversation that was both exhilarating and terrifying.
“Imagine little ones running around here,” she said with a dreamy smile. I smiled too, but my mind was already working through the practical concerns.
“Yeah,” I agreed. “But… there’s so much we don’t know. What about my medical history? Who knows what runs in my DNA?”
Vivianne, ever understanding, nodded. She knew my story. I was adopted, abandoned as a baby, found in an alley. My adoptive parents were incredible, and I had never lacked love. But they knew nothing about my biological family. No one did. Not even the police. Back then, there just weren’t surveillance cameras on every corner like there are today.
Lately, the uncertainty had started gnawing at me. If we were going to have children, I wanted to know what I might be passing down to them. And so, I did what most people would—I ordered a 23&Me kit.
When the kit arrived, Vivianne raised an eyebrow. “Detective Matthew is on the case?” she teased.
“Health detective,” I corrected with a grin.
“Well, if this means we can start trying, I’m all for it,” she said, giving me a quick kiss before heading off to the kitchen.
I followed the instructions, spit into the tube, registered my sample online, and sent it off, not realizing I had unknowingly opted in to connect with DNA relatives.
A few weeks later, the results came in. I logged in, eager to check out my genetic health risks. What I wasn’t expecting was a message in my inbox with the subject line: “We think we might be related.”
At first, I was going to ignore it, but then I saw the sender’s name—Angela. Right below it was another message from someone named Chris.
Curiosity won. I opened Angela’s email first.
“Hi Matthew,
I just saw that we matched on 23&Me. I’m your bio-sister. Our whole family has been searching for you for years. Can you please write back?”
My stomach flipped. I didn’t want this. I wasn’t looking for them. But against my better judgment, I opened Chris’s message. It was nearly identical.
According to them, my biological parents had five other children—Angela, Chris, Eleanor, Daniel, and Michael—before me. The whole family had supposedly been looking for me for years.
I stared at the screen, trying to process it. Why now? After thirty-one years? My gaze shifted to the framed photo of Vivianne and me with our families—my real family. The only family I had ever needed.
I typed out two quick, blunt replies:
To Angela: “Thanks for reaching out, but I’m not interested.”
To Chris: “Thank you for the information. But please don’t contact me again.”
I thought that would be the end of it. I was wrong.
Minutes later, my inbox flooded with new messages. The tone had shifted.
“Matthew, our parents regret their decision every single day. They were young and scared. Please, just give them a chance to explain.”
“Family is family. Forgiveness is important.”
I understood that guilt probably haunted my biological parents. But was that my problem? Did I owe them something after they abandoned me?
Vivianne called me right then, on her way home from the store. “Are you going to keep responding?” she asked after I explained everything.
“I don’t want to.”
“Then don’t. You don’t owe them anything, Matthew.”
She was right. I blocked them and turned off notifications on the website.
But they didn’t stop. Somehow, they found my personal email. Then my phone number. Social media accounts. They flooded every platform I had.
“You owe us a chance to explain.”
“You’re being heartless.”
“Our parents deserve to know you. You’re being cruel.”
The last one was the worst. Whoever they were talking about was not my mother.
Even blocking them didn’t help. They created new accounts, kept messaging, kept pushing. Finally, after a few days of peace, I woke up to a text from an unknown number.
“Matthew, it’s Angela. Please don’t ignore this. Mom is sick. She needs a liver transplant. None of us are a match. You’re her only hope.”
I showed Vivianne. She sighed. “Maybe you should call her. Just to get them to stop. We can’t keep living like this.”
So I did.
Angela picked up instantly. “Matthew! Thank you for calling!”
“Let’s be clear. My mind hasn’t changed. I don’t want anything to do with your family. What do I have to do to make you stop?”
“Did you read my message? Mom is sick. She needs a transplant. You might be her only match.”
“Then show me the tests,” I said. “The ones proving none of her five other children can donate.”
There was a beat of silence. Then Angela hesitated. “Well… it’s complicated.”
“Complicated how?”
Chris jumped in, aggressive now. “It’s not necessary for all of us to get tested, is it? If you’re a match, problem solved.”
“So a simple blood test is a hassle for her actual children?” I said coldly.
“I don’t like hospitals,” Eleanor mumbled. “And needles make me faint.”
“I’m busy with work,” Daniel added.
Michael just nodded in agreement.
They weren’t willing to help the mother they were begging me to save.
Angela tried again, voice trembling. “Matthew, can’t you see Mom is suffering? Please, just help.”
I stood up. “You people abandoned me. And now, the ones who didn’t get tossed aside are refusing to step up. I will not be the one to save her. If I get another message, I will take legal action.”
Finally, I turned to the woman who had given birth to me. “Thank you for leaving me in that alley. It gave me the chance to have a family who would do anything for me. I wish you the best.”
And I walked away without looking back.
That night, Vivianne held my hand. “You did the right thing,” she assured me. “If it had been the mother who raised you, you would have done it in a heartbeat.”
She was right. I would have. But the woman at that coffee shop wasn’t my mother. Those people weren’t my siblings. Not really.
I deleted my 23&Me profile. I changed my number. I erased my social media.
And I never heard from them again.